Interviews

Exclusive Interview: Actress Tasha Smith Dishes on Zane Books, Friendship & ‘Empire’

February 12, 2015

Tasha Smith is the kind of actress whose roles are so infectiously relatable that she instantly becomes that “friend in your head.”

For over 20 years, Smith, 43, has been gracing our big and small screens. I first remember seeing her serve as Tyra Banks’ friend and go-to acting coach on the reality modeling competition show, “America’s Next Top Model.” I recall watching her give the aspiring models a crash course in acting with funny, over-the-top antics that made her memorable.

Since then, Smith has gone on to become one of the hottest actresses in Hollywood. She’s played roles in several Tyler Perry productions including “Daddy’s Little Girls, “Why Did I Get Married,” its sequel and current spin-off television series, “For Better Or Worse,” plus a host of other movies and TV shows.

Smith’s big personality, quick wit and humor often translate into her roles, but not all the time. In fact, the New Jersey native showed a more subdued, serious side as psychotherapist “Dr. Marcella Spencer,” in last year’s steamy feature film, “Addicted.”

“Addicted” is currently available on DVD here.

Now, in a recurring role on Fox’s breakout hit, “Empire,” Smith is continuing to show viewers that she’s an actress who can take on just about any character—well, she is an acting coach after all!

I recently caught up with the actress where she talked about Zane’s erotic books, why “Empire” is the modern day “Martin,” friendship and more!

Check out the Q&A below:

BGG: You’ve played so many roles in your career. What character did you learn the most from playing?
Tasha Smith: That’s a great question. A long time ago I had done a Jerry Bruckheimer TV movie where I played an astronaut stuck out of space. We thought we were going to die. That was before a lot of the comedy stuff I had done came out. I learned a lot. My character had a son and was married and lived with the fear of never seeing her family again. Her fight to survive was really important. At that point in my life, I wasn’t really honest about fear. You might meet people who say they don’t have any fears because they have faith. But, I believe that all of us have some kind of fear. I learned a lot discovering the fears of that character. It was a wonderful learning experience for me.

BGG: Who was your biggest inspiration for becoming an actress?
TS: I have to really go back to my best friend. I have people who inspire me now, but when I was young with a dream at 15 years old I met who is my best friend to this day, Tisha Campbell-Martin. We have been best friends since we were 15. I’m the godmother of her youngest son, Ezekial. She had come to Camden, NJ with a guy she was dating. At the time I was just a girl from Camden, so to meet her was very inspiring. She was the hotness, honey! That was Tisha Campbell, baby! She inspired me and taught me about integrity, character, work ethic, professionalism and how to behave on the set, etc. When I moved to California and Tisha got “Martin,” I also worked as her assistant. Through that time I really learned a lot.

Tasha Smith with her best friend of 15 years, Tisha Campbell-Martin. Photo Courtesy of Smith’s Instagram

BGG: Prior to landing the role as Dr. Marcella Spencer in “Addicted,” were you a fan of Zane erotic novels?
TS: Listen, first of all Zane’s books…let me stop! (laughing) I was very familiar with her as an author. I wasn’t one to sit and read her books all the time because I went through this time in my life where I was celibate and reading Zane’s books was not helping me to do that! All you want to do is have sex after reading Zane books!

BGG: I know that you’ve spoken openly about being a Christian, does your faith ever conflict with roles you’re approached to play?
TS: Absolutely not! I’m an actor and I can’t judge characters based on my spirituality and how I choose to believe in God. To me, whatever your choice of spirituality is, it’s your personal choice. I may play a character that doesn’t believe in God at all. It doesn’t interfere at all because I believe in God and thank Him for having a connection.

BGG: While watching Oprah’s Selma special last month, I noticed that you were in attendance. What was that experience like?
TS: It was one of the best, most beautiful experiences of my life. That lady (Oprah) knows how to throw party! I had a chance to meet Berry Gordy and sit down and talk to Smokey Robinson who was just divine.

BGG: You’re now on the hit Fox show, “Empire,” were you at all surprised by the positive response it’s been getting?
TS: I am so happy and grateful to be a part of that movement because it is truly a movement. You know when something is greater than you can imagine? I think “Empire” is bigger than anything we ever imagined. I don’t think anyone knew just how infectious it was going to be. It’s like the best thing on TV since “Martin.” Remember when “Martin” first came out and we were all addicted to it back in the day? Every time Martin did a taping, every celebrity wanted to go to it. That was like the thing to do. Every basketball team, every actress, every singer, everybody was addicted to “Martin!” To me, “Empire” is even better than that. I think everybody is addicted to Lucious and Cookie!

BGG: What’s the one beauty product you can’t live without?
TS: I have to have NaturaBissé Diamond Cream. It’s a little bourgeois, it’s a little expensive, but I can’t live without it! It’s a moisturizer for the face and it’s just incredible.

“Empire,” airs on Fox Wednesdays at 9pm EST.

What’s your favorite Tasha Smith movie/TV show?

Category: Arts and Entertainment, Interviews | 2 Comments

Interview: Erotic Author Zane On Being a Trailblazer and the DVD Release of ‘Addicted’

January 28, 2015

Before “Fifty Shades of Grey,” there was Zane.

We BGs know that she’s been penning steamy page-turners well before erotic literature became pop-culture approved.

For nearly 20 years, the trailblazing author has written over two dozen erotic novels, including her New York Times bestseller, “Addicted,” which was adapted for the big screen last fall.

Zane’s sexy stories have also been the basis for a couple of cable television series on Cinemax garnering praise from fans and critics alike.

In addition to her own book, TV and film projects, the D.C-based writer also publishes books for other authors.

I recently caught up with Zane to chat about the soon-to-be released “Addicted” DVD, her favorite book and of course what everyone wants to know—does her art imitate life?

“Addicted” starring Sharon Leal, Boris Kodjoe, Tasha Smith, and Tyson Beckford was released OnDemand on Tuesday (Jan. 27) and will be available here on DVD February 10th.

Check out the Q&A:

BGG: Being that Addicted was your film debut, were you surprised by its success?
Zane: I honestly expected it because the book had such a large fan base, globally. I was pleased that it went as well as it did. I did expect it to do well because I have high expectations for my stuff in general.

BGG: What can viewers expect from the Addicted DVD that they didn’t get at the theaters?
Zane: There’s an unrated version (for the Video OnDemand), additional sex scenes and some bonus features, as well.

BGG: Do you plan on turning any of your other books into big screen adaptations?
Zane: Yes, I am definitely planning on doing more. I always knew that “Addicted” would be my segue into film.

BGG: Why did you decide to have someone else write the script for Addicted?
Zane: I was originally asked if I wanted to do it. At the time I had a lot going on. They had various scriptwriters pitch to me over the phone and tell me how they envisioned the script going. While I didn’t necessarily write it, I was involved in selecting the scriptwriters and discussing where they should build, etc. Had I written it, it would’ve been like cutting up one of my babies. What ended up on screen I don’t think I could have done that without getting in my feelings. It would’ve involved me getting rid of so much and I would’ve been too caught up in the characters.

BGG: What was the biggest challenge you faced adapting the book into a movie?
Zane: The biggest and most obvious challenge was that “Addicted” was just shy of 95,000 words and a novel told from a first-person’s perspective, while a movie is a totally different vehicle. The entire book is told through that perspective: what she’s thinking, what she’s feeling, etc. Of course a motion picture is dialogue heavy, but the reason it’s called a motion picture is because a lot of it is acting. So having actors make something resonate by the way they look or move was important.

BGG: Do you prefer to be referred to as an erotic or romance author?
Zane: I am what I am. I never set out to be anything in particular. So whatever people want to call me, I’m fine. I don’t know what other people do, but I feel like I have a very different and unique writing style, as well as the authors I publish. The book I’m writing now, I’m about to scare myself (laughing)!

BGG: There seems to be an uptick in erotic literature. As a trailblazer, what do you think of the whole phenomenon?
Zane: I think that people are more open to it now. When I first came around, there were some out there, but they weren’t getting a lot of attention. When I first came out, booksellers were like, ‘I’m not carrying that on my shelves.’ But a couple of years later, a woman thanked me for keeping her lights on.

BGG: Books like yours helped pave the way for “Fifty Shades of Grey,” what do you think about all the attention it’s received?
Zane: I think it’s great marketing. She (author E. L. James) was able to be on all the top media outlets and have the right people helping to promote her. I’m not mad at her. I’m happy for her.

BGG: I’m sure “Addicted” has a special place in your heart, would you say it’s your favorite book you’ve written?
Zane: All of my books have a special meaning to me. I wouldn’t let them go out into the public unless I felt like I’d accomplished what I set out to accomplish. Generally, but not always, my favorite book is the one that I’m currently writing at that moment. I get really caught up in my stories. That being said, right now I’m finishing up “Vengeance, which is the next book in the “Addicted” series. So, right now I’m excited and living and breathing those characters. I always try to outdo myself. In my mind, every book that I put out is better than all my other books I’ve put out; at least that’s my goal. I’m always trying to constantly evolve and grow as a writer. Of course, I’ve matured quite a bit since then so it’s a different voice, but I’m still the same person. Now it’s just a more mature and seasoned one.

BGG: Do you think you’ll ever explore any other genres outside of erotica?
Zane: I already have, but most people just don’t know it. I did “Breaking the Cycle,” which was about domestic abuse and it won an NAACP Image award. I do plan to write another genre and do it in a really specific way so that people will say, ‘now that’s definitely not erotica!’ I also plan on doing young adult novels too.

BGG: Are some of the scenarios and scenes from your books real? Have you lived out some of them?
Zane: Some of it is, most of it is, and some of the wild stuff is, but I never tell people what those things are (laughing)!

Are you a fan of Zane erotic novels? If so, what’s your favorite? Also, did you see “Addicted,” when it was in theaters?

Category: Arts and Entertainment, Interviews | 1 Comment

Interview: Tech Entrepreneur Dez White

August 27, 2014

Many of us have a multitude of apps on our smartphones and tablets. Unfortunately, most of those mobile apps, whether gaming, social messaging or entertainment based, aren’t created by individuals who look like me and you.

It’s no surprise that widespread diversity in Silicon Valley is virtually non-existent. Thankfully, tech entrepreneur and app developer Dez White is on a mission to shift that imbalance.

Tech entrepreneur Dez White/Photo Credit: ACEOFLA

Believed to be the youngest African-American female developer to invent and successfully launch a suite of apps, White, 30, is getting noticed and for good reason.

Her line of “Invisible” apps (Invisible Call, Invisible Text, Invisible Email and Invisible Social) enable consumers to communicate privately and securely across multiple platforms. Her most popular app, “Invisible Text” allows users to remotely delete messages before they’ve been read, send messages privately that disappear forever, as well as send GPS locations, video, audio files and more.

Not only does the California native stay busy developing apps to protect privacy, but she also gives back.

In an effort to pique interest in technology for young girls (over the age of 13), White is launching Girl Code LA —a series of free nationwide tech events to introduce them to app development, the funding process, and will also provide an intro to coding. The series will kick-off Sept. 6 in Los Angeles.

I recently spoke with White to talk about her developments, how she balances it all (she’s also a mom of two!) and more!

Check out our Q&A below:

BGG: What inspired you to start creating apps such as “Invisible Text?”
Dez White: When I previously worked in journalism, I saw a need for a form of communication that allowed a certain level of anonymity. I was particularly looking for a secure way to send and receive messages and realized that nothing quite like this existed on the market. There are other platforms out there that offer similar functions, but their security was and can be compromised. I also loved the idea of creating an option that would allow people to take back messages after they’ve been sent. There’s not a single one of us that hasn’t sent something we immediately regretted. Invisible Text users can remotely delete a message any time before the recipient has opened the message, and people love that.

BGG: Were you always interested in technology as a a kid and teen?
DW: I actually became fascinated by technology in my early teens. I had a friend who was a hacker and was pretty successful at it. I became really intrigued by what he was doing, what he was able to do, and it turned into a love of technology.

BGG: Who is the “Invisible Text” user? Can you describe who would be a great candidate for downloading this app?
DW: Anyone with a phone is a candidate! Business executives, moms, everyday people, and of course individuals who need to send sensitive or discreet information are the perfect audience for this app. I personally use it to text security codes, logins, and other private information to my nanny and my husband.

BGG: I have to admit, it seems like it would be an ideal app for individuals who are doing or saying something that they probably shouldn’t be (i.e cheaters). Do you find or is there even a way to quantify that many consumers of the app use it for that purpose?
DW: I actually don’t know how it’s being used by people. We don’t keep any messages on our servers to ensure full privacy, but I can imagine (as with anything) that there are some people using it for purposes that might raise an eyebrow.

BGG: What has been your biggest challenge in the industry?
DW: There are a lot of barriers to entry. There is great progress being made to attract more women in the technology space, but being a woman, a mom, and having not come from Silicon Valley, I’ve had to work very hard to get yeses and the attention of influencers where others might have been able to do so more easily.

BGG: What key advice would you give another woman of color trying to break into the male-dominated tech industry (with a focus on developing apps)?
DW: Be patient and keep fighting. Do not take no for an answer. Strive for the top; it’s crowded at the bottom.

BGG: What’s been the best business advice you’ve ever received?
DW: When people tell you no, they are just expressing their own limitations. It has nothing to do with you. If you can dream it, it is possible. Audrey Hepburn once said “even the word impossible says I’m Possible.”

BGG: Do you have any mentors in the industry who have helped you along the way?
DW: Dan Fleyshman has been very supportive. He is actually the youngest person to take a company public.

BGG: Girl Code LA sounds like an amazing opportunity for young women of color! Tell me how it came to be.
DW: We hope so! There are just not enough women in tech today and even less women of color. And, while I’m not an expert on why that is, my own experience has been that not enough is being done to attract young girls and women into the space.

With all the recent (lack of) diversity results lately, I think it’s clear that young women don’t even realize computer sciences are an option for them. I want to change that. My own relationship with the business started because of a friendship with a guy who was really into tech, but had that friendship not existed, I can’t say definitively that I may have ended up in tech either.

I am working to create groups for women (and men can come too) that will give people an early introduction into tech, coding and fundraising in a supportive judgment-free environment. I want attendees to feel comfortable asking questions that they might otherwise feel intimidated to ask. The Girl Code is about having each others backs, and Girl Code LA aims to do the exact same thing.

BGG: I know that you’re working on “Blind Debit” with Damon Dash. Can you tell me a little of what consumers can expect?
DW: I’m really excited about this project. Essentially, people will be able to pay for things using their fingerprints instead of traditional payment methods. We believe it has the potential to enable the public to become a bigger part of the merchant services community. We are currently fundraising and have plans to launch next year.

BGG: I understand that you also have a entertainment website. How do you balance that along with your app ventures coupled with the demands of motherhood?
DW: I have a very supportive team and that makes a world of difference. My business partner currently runs the website, and I have a great nanny which helps so much. But, there is nothing more important to me than my children. So, no matter what is happening, I commit to turning work off every evening so that I can spend quality time with my boys.

BGG: What’s next for you?
DW: I’m working on a book and am launching a new music platform with Damon Dash called Rap Battle Live. Stay tuned.

Would you use “Invisible Text?” What’s the one app you can’t live without?

Category: Gumbo Mix, Interviews | 1 Comment

National HIV Testing Day: Dr. Rachael Ross Speaks On Its Importance

June 27, 2014

A few weeks ago I teamed up with the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) to bring you guys an up close and personal look at HIV by sharing the stories of two brave women living with the disease. Now it’s time for all of us to do our part and take action against new infections by getting tested.

In case you didn’t know, today (Friday, June 27th) is National HIV Testing Day. What better day than the present to know your status? Especially, when statistics show that we BGs are disproportionately affected by the disease. OraQuick Advance, the first FDA-approved in-home oral rapid HIV test, makes it simple and easy to find out where you stand. In fact, you can get results in as little as 20 minutes.

OraQuick is available at drugstores nationwide, $39.99

Famed physician Dr. Rachael Ross (co-host of “The Doctors”) has joined forces with OraQuick to help spread the message about the importance of getting tested. I recently spoke with Dr. Ross, who is also an author and sexologist about her partnership, startling facts and advice for those who may receive a positive diagnosis.

Photo via: TVrage.com

Check out some of the highlights from our chat:

BGG: There are many opportunities to help raise HIV awareness, why did you want to partner with OraQuick?

Dr. Rachael Ross: OraQuick is the only advance that I can 100% put myself behind. I’ve been an HIV advocate since college. So, to be able to do it now as a practicing physician and media personality is huge. If I can encourage one or two people to go out and get tested, I’m preventing. I’m preventing them from passing it on to the next person and I’m also preventing them from having a shortened life span (because they won’t be taking the proper medications). I’m also doing prevention because they may even tell their family and friends. Anytime I can use my platform to talk about HIV prevention, which is at the core of my heart, I’m on it.

BGG: Is OraQuick just as effective as someone being tested in a clinic/doctor’s office?

Dr. Ross: Nine times out of ten, if you ask for a rapid test at a clinic they’re going to give you the same one that would be found at the store. The only difference is that it may be packaged differently for at-home consumption. For example, there might be a 800-number if you have questions. OraQuick is 99% accurate and allows you to do the testing in the comfort of your home. However, with any type of rapid testing, it takes 3-6 months for the test to show positivity. So, if you contracted HIV last week, the test is not going to let you know that. That’s the case with all rapid tests, whether it’s at the clinic or at home. I encourage anyone who thinks they may as though they may have contracted HIV within the past few weeks; they’re going to have to get a blood test to get that information.

BGG: What do you think is the most important thing we can do to help reverse the stigma attached to HIV?

Dr.Ross: I’m not sure there’s a stigma. I think what needs to happen is that people need to understand that there are currently 1.1 million living with the virus in the United States and many of them don’t know it. Also, African-Americans are 8 times more likely to contract the virus than anyone else in this country. HIV is so preventable and it’s running rampant in our community. Half of HIV infections are concentrated in the South where we are, as well as our HBCUs (historically black colleges and universities).

NOTE: HIV testing is especially important in the African American community, where HIV incidences are growing. Unless the course of the epidemic changes, at some point in their lifetime, an estimated 1 in 16 black men and 1 in 32 black women will be diagnosed with HIV.

BGG: Why do you think it is that we don’t hear much about HIV-related cases as much as we did in the ’80s and ’90s?

Dr. Ross: HIV used to be a death sentence, but it’s now considered a chronic illness. Since we’ve gotten away from 20-somethings dying, we’ve moved to this thing that we can’t see. HIV is now easy to manage and you don’t really have to tell people that you have it. You can take your medication and vitamins and people won’t know. Also, because it predominately affects African-Americans. When you have illnesses that predominately affect minorities, it’s not on the minds of the majority. Therefore, it’s not going to be something that we talk about regularly.

BGG: What advice would you give to someone who has just received a positive HIV diagnosis?

Dr. Ross: First, recognize that it is not the end of the world and that life continues to go on. Second, get a support system together. In most cases that’s going to be your family; be careful with your friends because friends gossip. Third, get a really good infectious disease doctor. You can’t go to your primary care doctor because you need someone who specializes in HIV care. Also, plan for your future. If you do become positive, remember that it is illegal in many states to have unprotected sex with someone without informing them about your status. Your whole life changes so you have to be protective of yourself and those around you. Knowing and getting on medication is the best thing you can do for yourself.

For more information on HIV prevention, testing, facts, etc, please visit www.cdc.gov/hiv/

Will you get tested today in honor of National HIV Testing Day?

Category: Interviews, Wellness | Leave a Comment

Kelly Rowland Joins Caress as New ‘Fabulista’

April 10, 2014

In case you haven’t heard, Kelly Rowland is the new “Fabulista” for Caress body washes.

Known for her flawless healthy-looking skin, it seems only fitting that the Grammy-award winning singer would be tapped by the Unilever brand to be its newest ambassador.

In her role, Kelly will follow in her BFF Lala Anthony’s (she was also a Caress Fabulista) footsteps by sharing beauty and fashion tips with consumers and showing them how fresh fragrances inspire her to be fabulous.

Through her partnership with Caress, the brand has launched the new Fresh Collection of body washes including: Emerald Rush (also has a beauty bar), Aqua Sparkle and Juicy Escape. Each of the shower gels is refreshingly fragrant and leaves just the right amount of scent on skin. Since I’m a sucker for citrusy smells, Juicy Escape is my favorite because it has notes of pink grapefruit.

Caress Fresh Collection is available at drugstores nationwide, $5.99

Watch Kelly give us a sneak peek into the upcoming Caress® S/S ’14 Lookbook

I recently caught up with the former Destiny’s Child beauty to inquire about her favorite scent from the collection, her role as a Fabulista and more!

Check out our Q&A below:

BGG: I’m sure you’re offered many partnership opportunities from various brands. Why did you want to team up with Caress?

Kelly Rowland: As an artist, finding inspiration from my surroundings is so important. I’m so excited to team up with Caress Body Wash to help launch the NEW Fresh Collection. Starting my day off with a little fresh fine fragrance gets me revitalized and ready to experience my day to the fullest potential. I’ve been using Caress products for years, and when I got a sneak peek of the new line, I loved it, and knew my fans would too!

BGG: What does being a “Fabulista” mean to you?

KR: I’m so excited to be one of the newest Caress Fabulistas. It’s a celebration of being fabulous and a fashionista! Being part of this amazing group of beauty and style icons gives me the platform to share tips I’ve learned along my journey on how to be fabulous. I’m so excited to join Caress to inspire my fans to enjoy every day experiences in a fresh new way.

BGG: I know they all smell lovely, but out of the three new Fresh collection body washes, what’s your favorite scent?

KR: I love the Caress Emerald Rush from the new Fresh Collection because I’ve always loved the revitalizing scent of lush gardenia and white tea. I also love the Juicy Escape body wash to start my day – so uplifting!

BGG: What is the one style trend that you’re looking forward to trying this spring/summer?

KR: I am LOVING Pastels!

BGG: What’s the most inspiring time of day for you? When do you feel the most creative?

KR: It doesn’t matter what time of day, inspiration brings my creativity to life!

BGG: When do you feel the most beautiful?

KR: When I’m with my family, I feel happy and loved – and beautiful.

BGG: I’m sure it’s hard to choose just one, but if you can what is your all-time favorite song (solo or as a member of Destiny’s Child) to perform? Why?

KR: My favorite song to perform is “Motivation” because it really makes me feel sexy.

BGG: What’s the one song from any artist that can instantly boost your mood?

KR: Right now, I’m loving “Happy” by Pharrell.

Do you use Caress body washes? What’s your favorite Kelly Rowland or Destiny’s Child song?

Category: Arts and Entertainment, Beauty, Beauty News, Interviews | 2 Comments

GIVEAWAY & Interview: Sarah Jakes Author of ‘Lost & Found’

March 26, 2014

Sarah Jakes may have a famous father (Bishop T.D. Jakes), but the mom of two is well on her way to becoming a household name in her own right.

In her brand new memoir “Lost & Found: Finding Hope in the Detours of Life,” Jakes shares her story of being a mom at 14, living under a microscope, becoming a divorcée and overcoming life’s obstacles while strengthening and maintaining her faith.

Photo via: sarahjakes.com

At only 25, Jakes has mastered a writing style that is conversational and completely transparent. “Lost & Found,” draws readers in as if you’re peeking into your best friend’s or sister’s diary. She doesn’t shy away from providing in-depth details about her life that some may view as less-than-favorable (especially being the daughter of a renowned pastor), but instead includes them in hopes that they will serve as examples to inspire and encourage other young women.

I recently spoke with the West Virginia-born author to discuss her book, her favorite beauty product and more!

“Lost & Found” will be released April 1st here, $18.49

Check out the Q&A below:

BGG: Congratulations on such a great read! I know that you will touch so many young women with your story.

Sarah Jakes: Thank you so much. I’m so excited and anxious to finally get it out.

BGG: The entire book is so enlightening, but what is the most important thing that you’d want readers to take from your book?

SJ: It’s my prayer that people will read the book and not just see my story but see parts of themselves and their thought patterns that they may have had about themselves and then hopefully take those thoughts (like I had to learn how to do) and use them to empower yourself and be more transparent with our fellow sisters. I think Sometimes we can feel isolated when we have an opportunity to help one another by discussing the challneges that we face. I hope that it opens a discussion that continues for years and years to come.

BGG: What if any was the most difficult part of your memoir to write?

SJ: I think talking about my marriage was probably one of the most difficult parts becaues I’m not sure that I realized until I sat down to read the book exactly how lost I was and how hurt and broken I was. Reliving those moments and revisiting them were very hard.

BGG: When you were approached by book publishers (after telling your story at a women’s conference), did you ever have any hesitation about essentially sharing your story with the world?

SJ: Well, when they first approached me about writing my memoir I didn’t think I had enough material to write a memoir. So that was my only hesitancy. After I wrote the memoir, I said there are quite a few things in here! (laughing)

BGG: Growing up did you ever think you’d become an author?

SJ: Absolutely not. I never thought that writing was a gift. We learned to write in grade school so I thought that everyone wrote. I never thought it was anything special; I thought everyone did it. It wasn’t until I started my blog that I recognized that I might really have a gift.

BGG: Would you say starting your blog (in 2010) essentially changed your life?

SJ: It completely changded my life. That’s why I could never regret any of the things that I faced with my marriage because it allowed me to learn and develop a gift that I had not discovered. Also, I think there was something about knowing that I wasn’t alone that made me feel like if everyone is hurting maybe we can all heal.

BGG: Besides your father, is there anyone else whom you look to for spiritual guidance?

SJ: Funny as this may sound, I really look at my children. I admire their ability to bounce back and to make amends with friends. They have such forgiving and loving hearts because they haven’t been jaded by life yet. So I always try to look at them and say if they can laugh after wailing and crying seconds ago, then I can too. We are more resilient than we give ourselves credit for.

BGG: What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?

SJ: Most recently someone told me to be careful reading the book reviews with the negative headlines and I thought that was really good for me. A lot of times critics might look at my story and compare it to other authors. I didn’t grow up feeling like I wanted to be this author, I’m just a person who’s sharing her story. Also, Dr. Nicole (her marriage counselor) told me to own my process. Meaning, don’t let your process fit other people’s expectations.

BGG: In this nonstop digital age with so many distractions at our fingertips, how do you stay spiritually connected on a daily basis?

SJ: The one thing I do constantly is that I’m always checking in with God. I’m always praying in some form all throughout the day. They’re not long expressive prayers like we have at night and in the morning, but there are so many opportunities to thank Him for the smallest things. I’ve found that since I’ve done that and made it my mission to find something to be thankful for at every moment beautiful things have bloomed in my life. It’s like we’re planting seeds.

BGG: I’m going to shift gears a bit. What’s the one beauty product that you can’t live without?

SJ: Whoop Ash body lotion! I saw it on TV (“Hollywood Exes” star Sheree Fletcher created the brand) and thought the name was funny. I buy like 10 jars at a time! I also give them out as gifts. I love it! (Check out my review here)

BGG: Who are some of your favorite clothing designers?

SJ: I’m pretty classic with my style. Every now and then I’ll add something trendy to the classic look. From day-to-day it’s probably tomboy chic because I’m always running the kids to school or running errands. Oh and Target is my favorite store. When I have to get dressed up for events I always call on J. Bolin who’s been styling me. He gets me together whether it’s a piece from H&M that we jazz up with accessories from J. Crew, but I try to be economical because I’m still a mom and I’m planning for the future. I don’t go too far into the really expensive designers.

BGG: Where do you hope to be in 5 years when you’re 30?

SJ: I believe people will be probably be comparing me to Oprah because I’ll have my own talk show! I pray that whatever I do whether it’s blogging, writing or ending up on television that my message continues to be relatable, transparent and leads people back to God.

BGG: If you could tell your 15-year-old self one thing what would it be?

SJ: Slow down and pace yourself; you don’t have to move that fast.

Sarah oversees the women’s ministry at The Potter’s House of Dallas, the church led by her parents, Bishop T.D. Jakes and Mrs. Serita Jakes. Also, be sure to check out her blog sarahjakes.com.

**One lucky reader will win a copy of “Lost & Found.” Simply leave a comment sharing what bit of advice would you tell your teenage self? The winner will be randomly selected and announced next Wednesday, April 2nd. This giveaway is only open to U.S residents)

Category: Arts and Entertainment, Book Reviews, Featured, Features, Interviews | 4 Comments

Interview: Artist Mickalene Thomas On Her HBO Documentary ‘Happy Birthday To A Beautiful Woman’

February 24, 2014

Ever since seeing Mickalene Thomas‘ eye-catching portraits and colorful collages a few years ago, I’ve been captivated by her work.

That’s why I was surprised, yet thrilled to learn that the acclaimed visual artist’s latest masterpiece wouldn’t be adorned with her signature sparkly rhinestones or vibrant patterns affixed on wood panels, but instead would be a heartfelt story told through film.

Photo via www.mickalenethomas.com

“Happy Birthday To A Beautiful Woman,” is Mickalene’s first film project and will premiere tonight on HBO. The docu-short is a touching, semi-sad, celebratory ode to her mother,”Mama Bush,” who is also the subject and inspiration behind many of her portraits.

Mickalene’s undeniable creativity is showcased throughout the film as she allows photographs, music and cinematography to serve as powerful storytellers alongside her mother’s gripping recounts of dreams deferred, abuse, and addiction. Her story of struggle and overcoming adversity is universal, which is why this piece is sure to resonate with everyone, especially women.

“Happy Birthday to a Beautiful Woman,” premieres tonight, February 24 on HBO at 9PM EST.

I had the pleasure and privilege to speak with Mickalene about the film, her mother and more. Check out the interview below:

BGG: “Happy Birthday to a Beautiful Woman,” was excellent. I was so sorry to learn that your beautiful muse/mom passed away. What was it like working with her on this project?

Mickalene Thomas: My mother is such an elegant and charismatic person. I think that was one of the reasons why I was always inspired by her…with her strength and resolve despite the difficulties (health issues, addiction and abuse) throughout her life. Doing this film allowed me to really see that person and love that person, which is why I wanted to make this film. Using her as a subject for this film was actually quite easy. Initially it was going to be an art show/project. But, after I conceived the idea and talked to friends about it they suggested that I use film as a way to tell the story.

BGG: What do you want viewers to take from watching this film?

MT: I’d like for them to know what a great opportunity it was for me or anyone to create a great tribute to their mother. I think that’s something that we all hope to do in our own way in our lives no matter what we’re doing in the world. That’s why the title for me is so important. “Happy Birthday to a Beautiful Woman,” is a title that signifies celebrating motherhood and womanhood. I think my mother putting that on her cake for her 50th birthday was a mantra for her because that’s the time when her health declined. It was the inspiration that she needed in order for her to persevere.

BGG: So it was easy for you to decide on “Happy Birthday to a Beautiful Woman,” as the title, right?
MT: It was really easy because as I mentioned, she put it on her cake for her 50th birthday party. During her party, I had taken a photograph of the cake. When I was filming her at her house, I saw that she had it framed and put it on her nightstand. It was then that I realized that the title was already there for me to use.

BGG: Do you plan on doing more films?

MT: Absolutely! I do plan on doing more films. I am really interested in filmmaking as a means to tell a story as an artist. I’m actually interested in doing a semi-autobiographical feature film that deals with love (a love story).

BGG: Has your daughter (18-month-old Junya Rei) changed your approach to your craft? Will you incorporate her into your artwork?

MT: Yes, she actually has! My new body of work that I’m doing a preview of on March 6th (Brand New Gallery in Milan, Italy) is a tribute to that. It is very much childlike and free in dealing with geometric and formal aspects of painting. I think it has a lot to do with that child’s play of how kids see the world and them grabbing at things and having a response to what’s right in front of them. The portraits that I’m making are all untitled pieces because I want the viewers to have their own experience of the work; unlike my others that have titles that acts as a way of how it should be perceived.

BGG: The juxtaposition of patterns and the women in your paintings is so eclectic and beautiful, from where do you draw that inspiration?

MT: I was always looking at African textiles and photographs from African photographers from the 1970s and was just really inspired by those patterns. I also drew inspiration from my own family (my grandmother) and started bringing them into the work to create environments for my portraits.

BGG: How has fashion influenced your aesthetic?

MT: For me, fashion has always been a part of my aesthetic. The patterns I use, the fabrics that I’m interested in, and juxtaposing them with what the women are wearing in my portraits is very important. I look at fashion spreads for composition and how some of the women are posed, as well as historical art compositions. And, I like fashion myself.

BGG: I know that rhinestones are prominently used in your work, tell me about that decision.

MT: Rhinestones are sort of a primary fashion aesthetic that’s used in a lot of fantastic dresses and garments throughout the world. They have always been a part of my process. One of the reasons why I’m interested in using them is because they come from very high to low quality. They’re these pieces that you put on to embellish or to make something more beautiful or to stand out. So these notions of beauty signify the same sort of thing in relationship to how a young girl emulates her mother by learning how to dress. So those are transformed through the relationship of young girls and how they see themselves through their mothers. And I think that’s why I use my mother a lot in my work.

I really want people to hold on to this title (“Happy Birthday to a Beautiful Woman”) because it’s not just about the woman being beautiful on the outside, it’s the whole woman and what we represent in the world: what we go through, how we persevere, how we give life, how we struggle, how we uphold families and how we persevere and the tenacity of what a woman is from the inside out.

BGG: What has been your proudest moment thus far in your career?

MT: At this moment I would say that this documentary is one of my proudest moment because it has transcended beyond the boundaries of my own work of only being in art galleries and museums . It’s reaching a larger public audience of people that I don’t think I’ve ever imagined to reach. There are very few creations in the world that break the barriers where it allows for a larger audience. I think film, music, and literature do that where more people can see it and be inspired by it.

Will you be tuning in “Happy Birthday to a Beautiful Woman” tonight?

Category: Arts and Entertainment, Featured, Features, Interviews | 1 Comment